May 6, 2000 - Thursday
May 8, 2000 - Monday
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|I am the owner and holder of the copyrights to numerous images posted on the MESSAGELISTNAME message list and archive, residing on the SITENAME website. These images, some of which are described on an attachment to this letter, are not in the public domain. Written permission for the use of these images was never requested or issued, and I hereby demand that you remove said images immediately.|
In addition to immediate removal of all of these images, I also demand the following:
1. The images are exclusively available on the RedHeadedMen.com website, many behind a pay entrance. These images are not available anywhere else. The person posting these images specifically cropped them to remove both the URL of the site and the copyright notice. Clearly the person who did this is engaged in willful and blatant copyright violations. Since these images are all posted under the name of the MESSAGELISTNAME moderator I demand that the moderator be suspended and the list be immediately deactivated.
2. I have suffered economic damage by the post and distribution of these 41 images to over 1400 members of the group. I demand appropriate compensation for the illegal use of my images.
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I have retained legal counsel to pursue all lawful remedies for these copyright violations. On advice of counsel I am sending this demand for immediate action on the matters set forth above. If immediate action is not taken, my counsel will take the next steps in the imminent future.
May 9, 2000 - Tuesday
May 16, 2000 - Tuesday
May 30th, 2000 - Tuesday
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Hey there big boy... how's your weekend going? Pick a night this coming week and I'll come over and we'll work double-time on getting the site up and running.
Things here? Well, you remember that guy that Larry was talking to via IM? (We came to the ranch. He didn't come over. Etc.) Well, yesterday, we were yakking with him again and I asked if he would come over. He again said "maybe" and we figured it again wasn't going to happen... but by the afternoon, he said he was on the way over to say hi. And get this, when he got out of his car, he was RED HEADED!
So, needless to say, Larry tacitly harassed me the entire time he was here. He was very quiet, very guarded, but glimmers of real came through. And then, after he left, after dinner, I IM'd him again and he started opening up. He said he was happy when he left here... and for someone who's been completely tight lipped and an emotional wall, I thought that was a big revelation. By the time I logged off for the night, it was really nice. And I have to say that the eventual thought of actually kissing a red head that I was attracted to, with whom some sort of a yet-to-be-defined relationship could exist, is enchanting. I mean, I've never actually kissed a red head that I was physically and mentally attracted to. It would probably be euphoric.
Soooo... it's been quite an interesting weekend. We may see him today if he can steal away from his parents. (He lives at home.)
Of course, last night Larry made me promise that I'd try not to go gaga. It's gonna be hard. A sweet, near virginal, 20 year old red head. Yee-ha!
|Ok, living on instinct as I do (and sometimes I die by it, but here goes) I have to tell you this...|
Upon reading this email I became engulfed in jealousy. As I don't have any reason to be, I'm not sure what to do. I know it's stupid. I have this crush I just have to get over is all. So I will have to get back to you on getting together. I will be able to process all of it, I just need a few days to "re-group".
I hope this doesn't make you uncomfortable, but as I believe in the theory "When in doubt, communicate" I would have felt worse about myself if I didn't tell you.
Ok, gotta' go...
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|First, I'm sorry I went off to such a degree last night. Needless to say, I
was hurt, angry and in disbelief. Having it seem like such a sure thing that
you were coming when we stopped chatting (you even wanted to know how the DSL
line connected (presumably to hook your laptop to it)) and not seeing you
online and having no message when we got back from Wal-Mart, I said, "Hey, he
might actually be coming." Larry disagreed, saying I'd see you online in a
bit, but I kept checking and you weren't there. With each passing hour with
no message and not seeing you online, I became more sure you were coming. A
bit offline, while doing other things, I could see but it had been hours and
you still weren't online. And it *did* seem odd that you didn't message to
say you *were* coming when you left the house, so I took that into
consideration, but you knew I was enthused about your possible coming and I
thought you were excited about it as well. I just knew you had to know I'd
want to know the minute you weren't coming. I even went to the drug store to
buy a razor as I had none here and skipped renting a GameBoy game from
BlockBuster because I *knew* you were coming. I was sure. How could you have
been offline for four hours last night and not be on your way? I was certain
and on a high. I didn't think you were going to actually sleep between Larry
and I last night: that was too much to hope for. But I would hug you, you'd
promised that. And perhaps I'd even hug you extendedly. It was going to be
And then I logged on after dinner thinking that you would have likely been here by now, and you were there. Online. No excuse. Not even a realization that it might have been appropriate to tell me you weren't coming. It was unfathomable. I just couldn't understand how someone could let me down like that and not even have a "Sorry. I know you were really excited about seeing me but I just couldn't handle the drive".
So, Larry told me what you two said last night. As much as I hate to agree, I think you may be right. I think we're at two too disparate points. I tried taking a breath and chilling: remember, I did say that coming was up to you, even while I was saying "get your butt in the car." But even if it had been six o'clock, I would have come, probably even at seven. First, it was that your mom wouldn't let you. Then you cleared that hurdle. Next it was the computer problem. But you stopped working on it. I was shocked and impressed. Then, it was the time/driving problem. There are just too many hurdles; some I understand like your mom, but others I don't like it being five o'clock and that being too late for you to start driving. And if you say that you really didn't realize that you should have let me know you weren't coming, I have to believe that. But I also have to look to myself and realize that I can't handle things like that. Us computer nerds, I know we have problems with real life social interactions, but certain assumptions about social interaction are made and used: otherwise we couldn't interact or communicate at all. (Sorry, a bit of communication major coming out here). But it's obvious, at the very least, that your coming was less important to you than it was to me to a large degree. Again, I can handle that, but I don't think I can handle your not realizing its importance to me. I know that if I were you and you were I, I'd apologize about yesterday and I'd drive down today, just to show you that I understood. Now, I'm not asking nor suggesting that you do that. I'm just trying to illustrate the different points where we're at.
So I don't know what the solution is. Larry says I should just let him talk to you and me stop, but he also says he doesn't think we'll ever see you again. And being totally honest, part of me thinks that would be less pain and aggravation for me, but another part doesn't want that to happen... I don't know how I could ever be indifferent about your coming and I also don't know if you could ever realize my viewpoint or vice versa.
So no nice neat solution. I wish there were, but there isn't. And I hate that its come to the point where we're both contemplating not even being friends with the other. Perhaps if we both tried to meet the others' needs a little more. But, honestly, I don't know how feasible that really is. My need right now is that you drive down here today just to silently say, "yeah, I realize that you were super excited to see me, that I let you believe that I was coming (even though I didn't quite realize that I was doing so), and to show you that it's important to me that you realize that I'm making an effort to understand you, I'm driving down to La Jolla, even though it's A LOT of driving." That would make such inroads to getting us to a more mutual place; especially considering that it's not what you would typically do. Even saying that you would drive to L.A. one day this week and spend the night, 18 hours in L.A., that would show me that our effort levels were a little more similar, and that you at least understood my disappointment yesterday, if not totally agreeing. I was *REALLY* disappointed... but the anger overrode and thus the IM attack ensued. I'm sorry for that.
So I'm going to sign off now. I hope to hear back from you, via e-mail or an IM. And I still hope to see you.
Justin: I can see you are definitely keeping tight reigns to make sure I don't get too "focused" any more Patrick: I am definitely trying Patrick: you don't make it easy though Patrick: =:-P~ Justin: is that good or bad? Justin: I don't make it easy for you not to flirt? Justin: is that what you just said? Patrick: yeah something like that I think Justin: *smile* Justin: ok, on that positive note, I'm gonna sign off.